Yearn

I feel the heat rising…
blood coursing through my body
unconscious I am wistful for your touch
I yearn for your love, covetous even.
Oh what have you done
The spell has binded me to your love
And so eager, I fall and fall all over again.

Blinded

Took a sip of your love and I was delighted
Took a peek into your heart and I fell for it
Tried to feel the warmth of every second I’m with you
Every inch our skin gets closer, I can feel it tickle my bones.

I tried to stop it but I can’t seem to do it
I guess it’s just what I was looking for,
But is it love or is it not, what I feel for you confuse me
I never expected it to happen, it just did.

Now I’m blinded.

Rethinking Marital Relationships in the Light of the Changing Role of Women Today

Rethinking Marital Relationships in the Light of the Changing Role of Women Today

Ana May Dominique de Dios

DLSU-Manila

II/AB-Literature

If I go over the long talk about the history of cultures and traditions of marriage in light of past and contemporary context, I might as well be able to write a novel just talking about that particular topic. It is very broad and there are almost a million words that I could blabber about. So we’ll just stick with the basic context of life in the boundaries of marriage in contemporary times. However, just to have some comparison, we’ll be looking back to the not so distant past. Just to shed light over why it’s changed over time.

In the past, as what we’ve been taught, the man has all the rights in the world. Man is the center of life. Man is always the stereotypical strong and wise and laborious. While women are just in the shadows, men take all the credit. Women are often misrepresented-even in the bible. We all know the story of Adam and Eve where Adam is the first person created, hence making man the original inhabitant of earth and that Eve was just created out of a man’s body part. So that was why they think that the women are subjected to men. Also that story when Adam was persuaded to eat the apple from the knowledge tree by the woman. This came to be interpreted that women are temptations and hindrances to men’s success. That is not true, isn’t it? What is it like to be married then in all these things present in the world today?

I won’t know the answer in a guy’s point of view but for a girl’s, it’s pretty much like being saved by a knight in shining armor. In the past, the man had always been the breadwinner in the family. Women don’t have much of an important role in the society. They are plain housewives whose main purpose is very well served being a supportive wife, serving her husband when he comes home, taking care of the children. Pretty much in the shadows, isn’t it? In the contemporary world, where the women already are serving in the working force in the society, leading organizations and excelling in their chosen fields, women have already been proving that if men can do the laborious workload, they can too. In light of this rapid globalization, there have been drastic changes that have occurred over time. Wives can now be seen in the office while men can now be seen at home being a househusband. Or most popular today is that both the husband and wife succeed in their career as professionals.

In light of this, a couple now has equal rights and choices on whether or not to go conventional or be part of the globalization trend today. Women are now seen as independent and are be entrusted with men’s role. Men can choose whether or not to become a house buddy. Each one has a choice to share in expenses around the household or not. They may or may not be able to do their duties well as couples depending on their schedules. In short, there are good and bad consequences in the life of the married couple in contemporary context.

Engagement

Engagement by Mikx de Dios. Edited version

Over my soul I rest in thee
I see you tonight as you surrounded your arms all over me
You came from behind and surprised me
I can see now that you really love to be with me.
As vast as the ocean I felt your love
As pure as white I saw your heart
As safe as I feel with you right now
You gave me the love I took without doubt.
This is the night I say I do
Because I know I will be safe with you
This is the moment I swear I could cry a river
But all that is because you made me smile
The joy I can never contain
Just overflowed the moment in my dream
Alas! I wake up with sadness
Just because I knew it was a dream.
I didn’t wanna wake up knowing I wouldn’t have you
But I know that God will take care of you.
Wherever I am, Im still attached to you,
My heart will always be with you.
I know that we’ll meet again someday,
But right now, when were far apart, I would always remember
That you are the most wonderful person I’ve met.
I may not see you around,
But in my dreams you do come alive.
As long as it is day, I can only think of you.
But come at night when I sleep, I will see you.
Goodbye for now my love.
I’m here holding on to your love.
Forever.

Marriage as Relationship of Love: The Joys and Challenges of Married Life Today

Marriage is an act of being joined together of two people, usually of opposite genders or sexes. It is also an act done with God as the principal witness, therefore, the most conventional and popular way of doing so is by a church wedding with cultural injected ceremonies and traditions. It is though taken for granted now-a-days. With the onset of the “infidelity” epidemic, it is now easier to break the bond of marriage, which is not- still and always will be- acceptable by God. Because in the first place, God is the perfect example of love and the couple vowed in His name that they will follow his example. Well, before I indulge myself too deep in the argument of infidelity, what has marriage have to offer then and now?

Culturally speaking, in the old times, men has to prove their worth to a girl’s family before he can ask her hand in marriage. He can only court her at her parent’s house and give gifts to prove how much he can provide for the girl’s needs. It is then much harder for the guy to get the girl. It takes a whole lot more courage and love to have the girl he wants to be with for the rest of his life. In some other cultures, however, in order to retain the status of a family, they engage their children into arranged or forced marriages. Some flourished in their relationships. But are they really happy about it? We don’t really know. Some, on the other hand, never found their true love. Where is the joy in that? In any case, in contemporary times, the culture, tradition, or perception of marriage revolutionized. People are more liberalized. Divorce, annulment and legal separation came into picture and destroyed a lot of relationships. Most marriages starts with merely infatuations and puppy love and ends very early with just shallow and unacceptable reasons. It is much easier to marry. I personally think that this is the reason why people does not see the real meaning and importance of love and family.

In a married couple’s life, there are- if not a few- a lot of changes that the couple has to adjust. In the first place, they accepted the person they married to be their partner for the rest of their lives. They must therefore act in accordance to a married person’s life (which is of course very stereotypical-nonetheless). Yes, there is romance, intimacy and exclusivity. There are much more responsibilities in a married couple’s life- and all that are expected to be met. They must work hard to keep their light of marriage burning. There are countless joys and innumerable challenges. There are much more things to sacrifice in order for marriage to last. To show their love, both husband and wife must be willing to sacrifice for the other and for their family as well. Well, of course according to right conduct and welfare of the person. Both should have the relationship of give and take, care for one another, and have their share in each other’s welfare and development. There are a lot of moments wherein a couple can spend time-intimate and romantic- together like going on trips or simply dine out and the like. One of the most wonderful joys in a married life is being blessed with a child. However, the challenge is to raise the child together. The joy of having a wonderful life partner is beyond words can compare but the challenge is how to keep it.

In life, there are a lot of temptations to a married couple’s life. However, if one is built on a strong foundation, the rock, their commitment can go a long way. It is not easy because these challenges can either make or break you but expect that it will be rewarded by God with overflowing blessings and favor upon your lives. The real joy in marriage, therefore, is knowing that God is blessing your marriage and the challenge is following His plans for your own family.